After
the joyful Cherish, Madonna released this
serious, rather dramatic fourth single in October 1989. Madonna
describes her difficult love-hate relationship with her father during
her youth. Maybe this material was a bit too hard or sad for the
Americans, who only allowed it to #20 in the charts. It wasn't
very welcome in Japan (#12) or Australia (#51) either. Six
years later, in December 1995 the song was released in Europe for
the first time, as part of the Something
To Remember collection. But even then, the UK didn't seem ready
for this great ballad; it stalled at #16.
Video
David Fincher directed a very strong dramatic video that matched
the song perfectly. Shot completely in black & white, the
video shows images of Madonna as a little girl with her angry
father yelling at her. It also shows the funeral of the girl's
mother, explicitly referring to the death of Madonna's mother.
As the girl is dancing on her mother's grave, in a beautiful snowy
landscape, a grown-up Madonna watches her. The video was so explicit
that MTV restricted it for being too disturbing. » Watch the video on our blog
Tour
During the church segment on the Blond
Ambition Tour Madonna performed a medley of Live
To Tell and Oh Father. It was one of her best vocal performances
of the show. One of the dancers walked around with an urn of incence,
then danced with her.